How to cope with postpartum depression?
It would seem that the birth of a baby should give the newly-made mother only the most positive emotions. But, unfortunately, this is not always the case. Some women face such an unpleasant and even dangerous phenomenon as postpartum depression. And how to identify it in time? And how to help yourself?
Why does postpartum depression develop?
Many people think that postpartum depression doesn’t threaten them, because the baby is so long-awaited, and even thoughts about him and about a new life cause delight. But not always everything is so rosy.
The most common causes of postpartum depression:
- Fundamental changes. Although at first the changes seem exceptionally joyful, after a while the euphoria passes, and the usual working days of a young and inexperienced mother begin. And to get used to a new and completely unknown role to some is incredibly difficult. If you used to be a successful business woman, built a career and regularly visited beauty salons, now you have to devote all your time and all your strength to a new family member - your baby. And it can be difficult.
- Chronic fatigue, constant lack of sleep. All this also has a very negative impact on the emotional state and psyche. Mom begins to get angry, and then completely depressed.
- Lack of time. If earlier you found time for much, then after birth, it may not be enough even for daily duties, and this, undoubtedly, will oppress and greatly anger.
- Lack of help. If, with all the difficulties, the new mother faces one on one, it frightens and upsets even more
- Disappointment. Many people imagine motherhood as something sublime, very pleasant and pleasurable. And the moments of pleasure are really waiting for all moms, but they can be eclipsed and not the most pleasant minutes or even hours. So if a woman drew pictures for herself, she would be touched by her crumbs, playing with him and going for walks, she would certainly be disappointed in motherhood when she encountered dirty diapers and diapers, frequent crying, sleep problems and other inevitable difficulties.
- Hormonal disruptions. As you know, hormonal background has the most direct impact on the emotional state and the work of the nervous system. And failures after childbirth and pregnancy are not uncommon.
- Constant fears.Most often they are associated with the state and health of the newborn. And gradually, fears turn into obsessive ideas and real panic attacks, which greatly wears out the nervous system, and it simply does not withstand such a load.
How to identify?
The main symptoms of postpartum depression are:
- Apathy, unwillingness to perform duties, even related to the care of the baby.
- Aversion to own child. A child's crying can take a young mother out of herself, make her experience unpleasant emotions and even leave the room in which the baby is.
- Irritability, increased nervous irritability. A young mother can often break down on others, including a baby. Any phrase of the household can offend or strongly anger, and the answer to it will be rudeness.
- Obsessions, for example, about the death of a child or about his own death.
- Decreased appetite. A young mother may forget to eat or take food "on the machine", that is, almost unconsciously.
- Violations of the perception of the real world, prostration. Much can seem gloomy or even unnatural.
- Slimming Due to emotional stress and a decrease in the amount of food consumed, the weight will drop rapidly.
- Tearfulness.The desire to cry can occur almost constantly, even regardless of what is happening around.
- Deterioration of appearance. A woman can stop looking after herself and even follow simple and generally accepted rules of personal hygiene: take a shower, brush her teeth, wash herself, change her underwear, and so on.
- Reluctance to communicate with others. It is unlikely that a young mother who is depressed will want to share her feelings and thoughts, because even she herself can be frightening and make her ashamed.
- A certain detachment in the eyes, the lack of joy and simple emotions associated with everyday events.
It should be noted that the signs are not always so pronounced and noticeable. Sometimes a woman herself does not suspect that something is wrong, or she skillfully hides and disguises her condition, due to which her behavior and appearance seem to be absolutely normal.
What to do?
How to deal with postpartum depression in a woman who has recently become a mother?
- Support is important. All relatives, households and friends should support the young mother in every way, ask her about the baby’s well-being and condition and simply distract with conversations on interesting or abstract topics.
- A woman certainly needs help, and you should not refuse her, especially at first. Part of the responsibilities can be delegated to the spouse, the other part - to parents or mother-in-law. For example, you can entrust someone with cleaning and cooking. And taking care of the child will fall on the shoulders of the mother, as the newborn needs the presence of the native person.
- You need to try to find time for yourself: go shopping, do a manicure and hairdo, read your favorite books or magazines, chat with friends. All this distracts from bad thoughts and gives energy. The baby can be entrusted to the spouse or nanny.
- Understand that the baby will cry, lie and remain helpless not always. Very soon he will learn a lot and begin to delight you with his new skills.
- If you do not have time to do something, just forget about it. Make life easier and don’t blame yourself for being a bad mother or wife. A loving husband will certainly not blame you.
- Walk with your baby more. This will not only provide your body with oxygen, but will also be useful for the crumbs. And you will distract from everyday worries and get new emotions.
- Communicate with young mothers to share advice, thoughts, experiences, experiences. Then you will realize that almost everyone faces difficulties.
- If everything is serious, then treatment may be required. A woman should consult a doctor to prescribe a sedative or even an antidepressant if the situation is severe. If a woman refuses to admit her condition and go to a specialist, then someone must go to him. You may have to act in secret, for example, pour the drug into tea or “send” a psychiatrist under the guise of a friend. But such measures are rarely required.
Is it dangerous?
Depression is a disease, and postpartum is doubly dangerous, because the woman's psyche is vulnerable, and the hormones are disturbed. And not only the mother herself can suffer, but also those around her, including the baby. Unfortunately, there are cases when women decided to commit suicide and even killed their own children.
The duration of postpartum depression
How long is postpartum depression? Everything will depend on the state of the nervous system of the young mother, on the support provided to her, as well as on the correctness and literacy of the treatment being carried out (if the situation is neglected).In the best case, depression will take place in two to three months, when the duties become habitual, and the woman will successfully live in a new role. But in the worst case, everything can be delayed for a year or even a half.
We can only wish all the mothers patience and good mood!
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